tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post2915682659640087898..comments2023-04-09T03:42:00.905-07:00Comments on Strive on with Diligence: When sorry really isn'tAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-76950881018063626522009-06-29T19:15:14.782-07:002009-06-29T19:15:14.782-07:00This is definitely an issue in todays society - re...This is definitely an issue in todays society - regardless of your geographical location. Perhaps our lives have sped up compared to past generations? Perhaps technology and instant gratification can be attributed to this? In terms of - people are alway looking for a quick fix, a quick response, if any at all, and then hurrying on to the next task, call, email, meeting. Just thinking out loud here ...<br /><br />I detest ignorance and bad manners. It's such a small thing - common courtesy and respect. From my perspective, a lack of manners speaks volumes about the person and their thoughts about that particular situation.<br /><br />As far as I'm concerned, an insincere apology is as rude as no apology at all. Don't bother with the words if the sentiment isn't there. So perhaps the art of manners is more deep rooted than the standard please and thank-you's? Perhaps it's based on the niceties and respect one person has for others? Perhaps it's moreso about perception and awareness ... about their personality, morals and values? These aren't things that are necessarily ingrained in us from our upbringing, but moreso learned behaviour from life experiences based on perception.<br /><br />It's also subjective. <br /><br />I'm actually told off by friends and family for being "too polite". I bump into something, I apologise. I knock into someone or speak at the same time they do, I apologise. I don't mean to abuse the term or overuse it, I've just been brought up to appreciate manners and an inherent respect for others. <br /><br />This is a double edged sword as I also expect a certain degree of manners from others. Not to the same degree, but definitely a must - regardless of whether it's professionally or personally.<br /><br />Which leads me on to the next train of thought ... if the person who has behaved rudely or has insincerely apologised, is close to you - how do you approach this? Explaining how you feel to them is one thing, but then can you ever be sure that the next time they apologise they are doing it for the right reasons as opposed to just trying to placate you?<br /><br />At the end of the day - everyone is different. Rather than getting caught up feeling frustrated, (which I have done before), by an associate or friend, (or even a stranger), that has been rude. I tend to be grateful. Grateful for the fact that at least I'm aware of myself and my actions .. and grateful that I don't have the same negative affect on people that others sometimes do.<br /><br />Just my 2 (rambling) cents worth :-)Alison Akershttp://www.twitter.com/aussie_alinoreply@blogger.com