tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post5936131368661208632..comments2023-04-09T03:42:00.905-07:00Comments on Strive on with Diligence: Can you give me some Self-Esteem, please?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-28323546605144837902009-06-27T22:31:58.656-07:002009-06-27T22:31:58.656-07:00Thank you Juanita and AZ Mom for the comments. I ...Thank you Juanita and AZ Mom for the comments. I was concerned that I came off a bit harsh, but am glad to see that others feel the same way. Your comments are excellent and add more food for thought for me. Thanks for checking this out, I really appreciate it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-91852996066979361012009-06-27T22:00:24.339-07:002009-06-27T22:00:24.339-07:00I think you hit it on the head...it is from within...I think you hit it on the head...it is from within and other people can't make someone's self esteem better. It is something that takes personal resolve to overcome (believe me from personal experience when a person has low self esteem, they are well aware that they do, so the remedy lies from within). As far as working with someone with low s.e., I think there is only so much affirmation you can give (that is a bandaid on the person's internal issues). I think a way to handle it would be to separate the issue at hand from the person. Use neutral non personal language, ie. "the project" instead of "your work". Keep constructive feedback directed at the task rather than at the person unless and until it truly becomes a personal issue.Angie Mozilohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934039397414210531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-36404512926301608172009-06-27T21:58:03.424-07:002009-06-27T21:58:03.424-07:00I just tell them this is work and that is private ...I just tell them this is work and that is private life and I need you to perform. NO EXCUSES.. But later I will take them out to lunch/dinner and that can be personal time to talk. I am not uncaring, but when we are at work we have a job to do. <br />I had a supervisor that used to call everyone over to appraise all of her displays. I finally had to complain to her boss after she did not seem to understand that we could not stop our day to give her a pat on the back each time she did a project at work. <br />I later became her boss and broke her of that habit. I have my ways. But she became WAY more confident and successful at work and in her personal life. You have to build confidence while at the same time separating the therapy time form the actual work time. <br />People used to love me as a boss, but I think I am extremely demanding. Maybe I actually care about the person as well as the employee, that may help.?Juanitahttp://www.juanitachronowski.comnoreply@blogger.com