tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.comments2023-04-09T03:42:00.905-07:00Strive on with DiligenceAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-25812477263811359862010-11-19T14:03:23.813-08:002010-11-19T14:03:23.813-08:00dude, I didn't realize you had a blog or I wou...dude, I didn't realize you had a blog or I would have been reading you. This post is great. We recycle and reuse a lot at our house.Life As I Know It Nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03733963455243806298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-67371527885889004442009-08-25T07:45:21.312-07:002009-08-25T07:45:21.312-07:00Sounds like a tough spot to be in. Not sure what ...Sounds like a tough spot to be in. Not sure what the accusations are and all that. Just stick to the truth (Which it looks like you are) and things should work out.Holy Crithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11691683429539898861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-76950881018063626522009-06-29T19:15:14.782-07:002009-06-29T19:15:14.782-07:00This is definitely an issue in todays society - re...This is definitely an issue in todays society - regardless of your geographical location. Perhaps our lives have sped up compared to past generations? Perhaps technology and instant gratification can be attributed to this? In terms of - people are alway looking for a quick fix, a quick response, if any at all, and then hurrying on to the next task, call, email, meeting. Just thinking out loud here ...<br /><br />I detest ignorance and bad manners. It's such a small thing - common courtesy and respect. From my perspective, a lack of manners speaks volumes about the person and their thoughts about that particular situation.<br /><br />As far as I'm concerned, an insincere apology is as rude as no apology at all. Don't bother with the words if the sentiment isn't there. So perhaps the art of manners is more deep rooted than the standard please and thank-you's? Perhaps it's based on the niceties and respect one person has for others? Perhaps it's moreso about perception and awareness ... about their personality, morals and values? These aren't things that are necessarily ingrained in us from our upbringing, but moreso learned behaviour from life experiences based on perception.<br /><br />It's also subjective. <br /><br />I'm actually told off by friends and family for being "too polite". I bump into something, I apologise. I knock into someone or speak at the same time they do, I apologise. I don't mean to abuse the term or overuse it, I've just been brought up to appreciate manners and an inherent respect for others. <br /><br />This is a double edged sword as I also expect a certain degree of manners from others. Not to the same degree, but definitely a must - regardless of whether it's professionally or personally.<br /><br />Which leads me on to the next train of thought ... if the person who has behaved rudely or has insincerely apologised, is close to you - how do you approach this? Explaining how you feel to them is one thing, but then can you ever be sure that the next time they apologise they are doing it for the right reasons as opposed to just trying to placate you?<br /><br />At the end of the day - everyone is different. Rather than getting caught up feeling frustrated, (which I have done before), by an associate or friend, (or even a stranger), that has been rude. I tend to be grateful. Grateful for the fact that at least I'm aware of myself and my actions .. and grateful that I don't have the same negative affect on people that others sometimes do.<br /><br />Just my 2 (rambling) cents worth :-)Alison Akershttp://www.twitter.com/aussie_alinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-28323546605144837902009-06-27T22:31:58.656-07:002009-06-27T22:31:58.656-07:00Thank you Juanita and AZ Mom for the comments. I ...Thank you Juanita and AZ Mom for the comments. I was concerned that I came off a bit harsh, but am glad to see that others feel the same way. Your comments are excellent and add more food for thought for me. Thanks for checking this out, I really appreciate it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-91852996066979361012009-06-27T22:00:24.339-07:002009-06-27T22:00:24.339-07:00I think you hit it on the head...it is from within...I think you hit it on the head...it is from within and other people can't make someone's self esteem better. It is something that takes personal resolve to overcome (believe me from personal experience when a person has low self esteem, they are well aware that they do, so the remedy lies from within). As far as working with someone with low s.e., I think there is only so much affirmation you can give (that is a bandaid on the person's internal issues). I think a way to handle it would be to separate the issue at hand from the person. Use neutral non personal language, ie. "the project" instead of "your work". Keep constructive feedback directed at the task rather than at the person unless and until it truly becomes a personal issue.Angie Mozilohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05934039397414210531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-36404512926301608172009-06-27T21:58:03.424-07:002009-06-27T21:58:03.424-07:00I just tell them this is work and that is private ...I just tell them this is work and that is private life and I need you to perform. NO EXCUSES.. But later I will take them out to lunch/dinner and that can be personal time to talk. I am not uncaring, but when we are at work we have a job to do. <br />I had a supervisor that used to call everyone over to appraise all of her displays. I finally had to complain to her boss after she did not seem to understand that we could not stop our day to give her a pat on the back each time she did a project at work. <br />I later became her boss and broke her of that habit. I have my ways. But she became WAY more confident and successful at work and in her personal life. You have to build confidence while at the same time separating the therapy time form the actual work time. <br />People used to love me as a boss, but I think I am extremely demanding. Maybe I actually care about the person as well as the employee, that may help.?Juanitahttp://www.juanitachronowski.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-72579359611019874082009-06-19T09:23:46.545-07:002009-06-19T09:23:46.545-07:00Love this!!! It's Ashley by the way hahaha.Love this!!! It's Ashley by the way hahaha.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-86887582823776351192009-06-17T15:31:10.037-07:002009-06-17T15:31:10.037-07:00Liberality, Thanks for the comment. Absolutely! ...Liberality, Thanks for the comment. Absolutely! I feel I have so much more control over my situation if I approach things with a positive attitude. I leave my rose colored glasses aside and am a realist, but look forward and my attitude and approach can alter the outcome.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-6963168214583247812009-06-17T14:36:47.192-07:002009-06-17T14:36:47.192-07:00reality is not always so positive :~)
but how you ...reality is not always so positive :~)<br />but how you deal with reality is a choice and it is probably better for oneself if that choice is positive. <br /><br />thanks for the blog comment btw!Life As I Know It Nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03733963455243806298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-75424199032221100852009-06-16T11:48:51.378-07:002009-06-16T11:48:51.378-07:00Thank you Anonymous for putting me in my place. I...Thank you Anonymous for putting me in my place. I look at the world positively and guess I expect others to do the same. I can't really understand why they don't, but did not step back and apply my "people think differently" principle and came across a bit high minded.<br /><br />I hope others can be more positive, but have to be patient and accepting. Thank you again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-62949430478245074312009-06-16T11:02:29.636-07:002009-06-16T11:02:29.636-07:00You are totally right however, some have a hard ti...You are totally right however, some have a hard time not thinking of these things. Of course they ususally take it too far but for some it's a struggle and takes a lot of work to make your mind work in a more positive way. So be patient with those. It's doesn't come as easliy to some as it does to others. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-48808943764060274552009-05-09T18:19:00.000-07:002009-05-09T18:19:00.000-07:00I agree 100% with all of these! It also drives me ...I agree 100% with all of these! It also drives me nuts when people drive slowly in the fast lane...if you want to go slowly do it in the correct lane!!WoodEngineerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10263909329663989943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-30012183069887327452009-05-04T13:19:00.000-07:002009-05-04T13:19:00.000-07:00So true! Most people are scared to say no.. even w...So true! Most people are scared to say no.. even when they know that it's not the best decision. Even the movie "Yes man" touches on the importance of saying "no".<br />Stay Real<br />-A.R.Dirtcheaphttp://dirtcheaproadtrip.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-17464279979596195352009-05-02T16:58:00.000-07:002009-05-02T16:58:00.000-07:00Failure is the seed of success!!
It's always har...Failure is the seed of success!! <br /><br />It's always hard when you do fail at something but as long as you learn you're better off than you were before.WoodEngineerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10263909329663989943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-40589729367289129242009-04-29T05:01:00.000-07:002009-04-29T05:01:00.000-07:00Very interesting concept. I use to be a big baseb...Very interesting concept. I use to be a big baseball fan..until that strike. Haven't really watched since then.ldmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01297049671760489121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-65895928349956375142009-04-19T00:02:00.000-07:002009-04-19T00:02:00.000-07:00I guess I have done my job. I love this quote, too...I guess I have done my job. I love this quote, too. It kinda hits the nail on the head.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-79526481762275944212009-04-17T14:50:00.000-07:002009-04-17T14:50:00.000-07:00Damn you for making me think! :) I really loved th...Damn you for making me think! :) I really loved this quote, I actually had to read it a few times to get it. I'm just special like that.QueenOfrelationshipshttp://www.queenofrelationships.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-8745808794067730642009-04-15T11:16:00.000-07:002009-04-15T11:16:00.000-07:00Amen brother. I use to be able to do that. Not l...Amen brother. I use to be able to do that. Not let things get me rattled, now I can't, don't know why. Slowing down is a good idealdmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01297049671760489121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-91027906521471851572009-04-14T06:18:00.000-07:002009-04-14T06:18:00.000-07:00Nice to see you back to blogging.Nice to see you back to blogging.ldmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01297049671760489121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-76955211860019564882009-04-07T22:09:00.000-07:002009-04-07T22:09:00.000-07:00I had this instilled in my by parents and more spe...I had this instilled in my by parents and more specifically by my grandma. Not by her thumping me (there were times I deserved that), but by setting an example for me. She was a role model for gratitude. I see a lot of parents that don't teach their kids gratitude and they turn out to be terrible people.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-54023240399457412132009-04-07T15:59:00.000-07:002009-04-07T15:59:00.000-07:00I've always been a very greatful person and I gues...I've always been a very greatful person and I guess old fashioned. I always say "no mam"/"Yes sir" etc. My parents used to thump me in the head every time I didn't say it..needless to say...it worked.Queen Lindsayhttp://www.queenofrelationships.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-81478097647398298972009-04-05T09:02:00.000-07:002009-04-05T09:02:00.000-07:00Great post, Eric - I've been trying to post a regu...Great post, Eric - I've been trying to post a regular 'gratitude journal' at my blog for almost a year now; finding it to be a wonderful way to bring good things into my 'meditative space' of the blog as well as to build up good feelings to bring back into the world. Keep it up :)Buddhist_philosopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14246929532585980356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-6699168066376656122009-04-03T14:22:00.000-07:002009-04-03T14:22:00.000-07:00Thank you Queen and Juanita for the great comments...Thank you Queen and Juanita for the great comments. I love reading other people's thoughts and feelings. Juanita, I agree with your statements regarding the 'piece of paper'. My father does not have an engineering degree, but can do more and do it better than most who have it. I do look at the degree, not as an entitlement that I should get a good job because I have it, but that it is allows me better access to those who help me get that job. I must still earn it, earn the degree, earn the respect of those who can help and earn the job.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13466241591795027789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-85824196705091689552009-04-03T11:38:00.000-07:002009-04-03T11:38:00.000-07:00You are so observant. I agree. I have worked with ...You are so observant. I agree. I have worked with so many people who were written off by previous bosses, when I was in charge I would listen and try and give chances. I was never more successful then when I took a chance and let someone prove that they had value beyond the guy/gal with the expensive degree. A piece of paper means that you finished school it doesn't mean that you ever got anything done besides your homework and you shouldn't feel entitled to being assigned or promoted to doing tasks over someone who perhaps for one reason or another did not get that piece of paper.Juanitahttp://www.juanitachronowski.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2723521385131123250.post-34661291229750417752009-04-02T09:53:00.000-07:002009-04-02T09:53:00.000-07:00I think a sense of entitlement came with my genera...I think a sense of entitlement came with my generation. A lot of us didn't have to work through high school or even through college and many had things handed to them with a silver spoon. Obviously, most think that every thing should be handed to them. You are right. "You" are in charge of yourself and goals need to be set!The Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01705477093103199474noreply@blogger.com